“Stress … can be driven by an overextension of our passions and the things we love.” – Randy Frazee (Making Room for Life)
The above sentence hit me to the core. I mean, it made me stop what I was doing and sit there and contemplate how much I was changed by it. I am a passionate person by nature. I get excited about a ton of different things. Almost anything can excite me enough to do something about it.
I can get offered to go to lunch by a complete stranger and I will be there without any reservations. I will go play crochet if someone asks me. I will do anything almost.
At least, until I read this sentence.
This sentence made me realize how much stress I have caused myself by doing so much. I am into life but I have filled my time too much to experience it. If you are like me, as I think you are, you struggle with having time for the things that matter to you the most.
So, I got a brilliant idea, at least it is to me.
I am good at making a to-do list, not so good at accomplishing it. Like most of you.
I am good at doing things, not matter how insignificant they are. Like most of you.
I am not good at building relationships as much as I want, even though I know how beneficial it is. Like most of you.
I am not good at setting boundaries for what I should and should not do. Like most of you.
So, I got a brilliant idea.
I am now making myself a not-to-do list.
That’s right, a not-to-do list.
The things that I want to do but don’t benefit me are on this list. The things that I hate to give up because I feel pressured by others to do are on this list. The things that hold me back from coming alive are on this list.
I have made a not-to-do list because if I don’t, I will spend a lot of my time doing those things and not doing the things I need to do.
Try it. See what comes of it. I am on the path of coming alive and this is something that might sound obvious or dumb to some but for me, I have been blessed by it so far.
a not-to-do list so we can do all we need to do.