being married = brand new car

Being married is like being the winner of brand new car.  

It truly is a gift from God.  

However, even though we received the gift freely, we must be focused on the (I hate this word, but nothing says it better) upkeep.  Or in better terms, the gift is free, the upkeep costs.  

We must constantly be focusing on how to maintain the love in our relationships.  Over the past month, I have been reminded more often than not of how I fail as a person.  I am learning just how truly sinful and selfish I am.  

I was having a conversation the other day with a friend about how marriage truly brings out the selfishness that we all have.  And just like my friend, I am learning that each and every time I do something that is not in her best interest.  Something that purely has my desires as the focus.  

The book Sacred Marriage points out that marriage is not about happiness but about holiness.  It is about obtaining whole-ness.  

But even though I am so glad to be where I am now, I never thought that this day would come.  Or at least, I thought that it would come a lot farther in my life, when I was forty or something.  But I am so fortunate and blessed to have such an amazing wife.  

And for that, 

I want to work as hard as I can to show her that I love her more and more each day.

links

Some links for today.  I know, I know.  What is up with all my link posts?  Honestly, I am not sure.  I am working on some stuff for you to enjoy but time is of the essence and I don’t have much at the moment. 

Be praying for me because I am going to lead worship with some close friends in Florida next week.  I am excited.  Posts to come. 

But for now, here are some links for you to enjoy:

1) Top 30 kid’s cartoon theme songs
2) Thoughts on writing songs from the Elevation worship team.
3) I saw this interview with John Piper and thought it was worth your time to read.  Once again, check it out here.  Also get a free copy of a new John Piper book (Finally Alive) here.
4) I try and keep track of some of my favorite questions that other people are asking themselves concerning their walk with Christ and their respective ministries.  After all, everyone of us needs to stay in check and examine their lives.  Perry Noble had some really good leadereship questions on his blog.  Check it out.  Part 1 here.  Part 2 here.
5) I have enjoyed the lessons that Mark Batterson learned on his family trip to Disney.  They are some great lessons.  Here they are.
6) Brad Lomenick is one of my favorite bloggers.  Here are his thoughts on gaining credibility as a young leader.

links

Here are some things that are a) funny, b) inspiring, or c) something you should check out. 

1.  Chris Daughtry in disguise at Comic-Con.
2.  As expected Carlos has a great blog for you to ponder concerning those who follow you (via twitter, facebook, or whatever else), click here.
3.  How come most churches have a Hillsong song in your set list?  See Tony’s thoughts on it here.
4.  Check out this article about figuring out what kind of man you want to be over at the Desiring God blog.  (Ladies, should read it too.)
5.  Speaking of ladies, all men should read this post by Perry Noble and assess how they treat the women in their lives.
6. Unlike most people, I actually find Jimmy Fallon funny.  I don’t watch his show though.  But here is a video of his about communicating, that is simply great.  It is very reminscient of Adam Sandler back in the day doing his most popular songs.

Have a great Tuesday.  What kind of links are you enjoying now?

moments that stand still

Have you ever had one of those moments where time just seems to stand still? 

Probably. 

Well, for me, it happened on July 25, 2009 at around 6:40 p.m. 

You see I was wearing a tux that was not my own and some black Chucks on my feet. 

The music started to play and my breath was taken away. 

For I saw my bride walking down the stairs in the most beautiful dress wearing a smile that would brighten the sun.   

I couldn’t contain the emotion then, and even writing this now, tears begin to flow down my cheek. 

That was the moment that I got married then and now I am still in awe of my wonderful, gorgeous bride. 

I am excited for what the future holds for Vickie and I. 

But right now, I can’t help but focus on that first moment of joining our flesh together under the witness of God and some of our closest friends.

What takes your breath away?